The boy who cried bully
>> Monday, June 11, 2012
Well the Fearne Cotton that cried Bully actually.
I read about a twitter exchange between Fearne Cotton and ANother:
ANO "You were pretty rubbish on the Pageant day, love"
FC "Right, this is what I am talking about. YOU=bully. Take a look at yourself. I have been working non-stop for 15 years thank you"
I wouldn't call this bullying and I think it's about time the world started to grow up on this one. ANO might be called rude, inconsiderate, insensitive or unkind but on the back of one critical comment I wouldn't call him a bully.
There is a trend to call anyone who offers a critical opinion a bully. I don't think that does us any favours in the quest to highlight bullying and drive it out into the open as unacceptable behaviour.
We are becoming immune to the word, it gets thrown around so much it starts to mean nothing. But the consequences of real bullying are soul destroying and evil.
Fearne may well have been working for 15 years but I wouldn't hold the jubilee coverage as a candle to her career. To be quite frank I thought the BBC did a pretty poor job with it and Fearne didn't do anything to offset the balance of crapness.
She also is quoted as saying "I’m from a working-class family and have worked hard to get to where I am today. Others will just sit and do nothing but judge.” Hmmmmm, is she saying she deserves to be cut more slack because she is from a working class background or that people not from that class don't have to work as hard to achieve? I don't believe either is true.
Wikipedia describes bullying as "a form of aggressive behaviour manifested by the use of force or coercion to affect others, particularly when the behaviour is habitual and involves an imbalance of power. It can include verbal harassment, physical assault or coercion and may be directed repeatedly towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability.[2][3] The "imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power."
Fearne Cotton may have received a lot of tweets from different people commenting on her performance and this probably was very upsetting but 1 comment from 100 people is not the same as 100 comments from 1 person. She is in the fortunate position of having worked hard for 15 years to get into a media spotlight and if she does a fabulous job I've sure many fans will tell her and if she does 'meh' I'm sure many people also let her know. But one "well that was a let down" does not a bully make. It makes a rude person who probably ought to internalise that thought or vote with the off button.
Please stop crying wolf world because there are too many real monster bullies out there hiding behind the false cries.
Photo of Fearne displaying one of her many talents : ombromanie
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